In the moment that you hug someone, don't do anything else.
Do not convince them, or analyze yourself, do not grow or shrink, fight or strive. When you hug someone, do not flirt with them or chastise them. Let there be no question about tomorrow in your hug, and no struggle with the past. Let there be only that hug, then, there, all that you need and all they need. Hug and be hugged.
Growth comes before, during, and after, and never ends, and there is no alternative to growth. You can not freeze yourselves where you are now, you can not have the love you have now forever and ever. Tomorrow you will have tomorrow's love, tomorrow's questions, tomorrow's growth.
Enjoy today's love today, eat it slowly and thoughtfully, taste every turn of flavor, hear every wandering melody, touch the gentle curve of her chin. Let the frantic, flying hair of today's love tickle your cheek. She will be new tomorrow, and new again the day after, and she has invited you to be part of the becoming. A thousand new moments await you, but when you are hugging, that moment is the one that matters.